How does one spot a Narcissistic Prayer? It is not always easy to tell, but there are 6 indicators that can help you make an educated guess.
Although these are not all-inclusive of the signs of narcissistic prayer, they are good places to start.
In this post, we’ll go over what a narcissistic prayer is and how to identify narcissists in your life.
The Narcissist’s Prayer is a stunning illustration of the narcissist’s mentality. Gaslighting, denial, minimizing bad conduct, blame-shifting, and shame dumping are all present in this short poem, all hallmarks of covert emotional abuse.
The ‘truth’ for a narcissist isn’t regarded as a fixed entity; it’s malleable – whatever the narcissistic says it is at that moment.
What is a Narcissistic prayer?
This prayer is how a narcissist thinks. This prayer goes as follows:
1. “That didn’t happen.
2. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
3. And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
4. And if it is, it is not my fault.
5. And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
6. And if I did. You deserved it”.
Let’s consider a few things: everyone will encounter a narcissist at some time, whether it’s a family member, friend, coworker, employer, spouse, or partner.
Also, keep in mind that recognizing a narcissist is not simple since someone can possess narcissistic tendencies but not actually fulfill the full requirements for narcissistic personality disorder or any other personality pathology.
Furthermore, when you are caught up in a narcissistic abusive pattern, you may not be aware initially and won’t realize there is a narcissist in your life until later on.
Even if you tell them they have a problem despite their refusal to accept the existence of an issue, they will not understand that they have one because they aren’t aware of it.
If you are being criticized or your actions are being questioned, they will immediately become defensive and abusive.
They might even try to persuade you that you’re the one with the problem, not them.
Because these individuals can cause a lot of damage and suffering without feeling any guilt about it, you should distance yourself from them as soon as possible.
Narcissists feed off of people. They use deceptive tactics to obtain what they want from others, regardless of the cost or sentiments of others, because “they are always right.” This will only enhance their narcissism and make them feel significant.
A friend of yours, for example, is a narcissist. How can you tell if someone is a narcissist?
It may be difficult to get a narcissist examined by a qualified mental health professional since they will refuse to accept help and merely asking “Are you a narcissist?” might provide you with either an “yes” or “no” response but no further information or comprehension of such an intricate set of behaviors.
Taking a Deep Look Into The Narcissist Pray: 6 Key Factors
1. “That didn’t happen”
Here we have denial, mixed in with history rewriting. These are both some of the typical actions people who have narcissism do.
If you know someone with this personality disorder, you might notice some of these behaviors as well as other symptoms.
Narcissists need to feel good about themselves and always be perfect or special so they can forget about their past and not think about how worthless they are feeling on the inside.
To distract from this, they will deny bad behavior and not accept blame for it.
2. “And if it did, it wasn’t that bad”
Minimization is something that narcissists do because they were raised in a way that made them think some things are not important.
To the narcissist, if it does not help them, then it is not important.
They might try to get someone else’s problems to seem unimportant by saying they are small or don’t matter very much.
Narcissists are really controlling. They need to control their image and how others see them, and they need to control other people in order to escape from the reality of their own fragile egos. Here, they are trying to control how others see external situations.
3. “And if it was, that’s not a big deal”
Of course, this is yet another instance of minimization, but I’d like to touch on the term “gaslighting.”
Gaslighting is a narcissistic behavior in which the narcissist denies another person’s reality by making them believe they are seeing things incorrectly.
The narcissistic refrain “You’re thinking about it all wrong” happens in many forms.
If this occurs enough times, the victim will lose confidence in themselves and begin to rely on the narcissist in their life as a guide for what is good or moral.
I knew of a narcissist who gaslighted his wife so severely that he would claim to be drinking tea when he was really drinking coffee, which she had seen him prepare.
Despite the fact that she knew inside her soul that this was wrong, she began to doubt everything she believed to be true.
The pattern of abuse starts to repeat itself. The victim may become so reliant on the narcissist for their daily needs that they will sacrifice themselves in order to keep receiving what they want, when they want it, and how they want it.
They remain exactly where the narcissist wants them to be – trapped in their metaphorical cage, where they can be controlled and provided with attention, adoration, drama, or conflict at the narcissist’s discretion – providing the oxygen that keeps the narcissist feeling whole and alive.
4. “And if it is, that’s not my fault.”
Another common narcissistic behavior that stands out to anybody who has been in a relationship with a narcissist – blame shifting is the term used.
Narcissists are unable to accept responsibility for anything because doing so would require them to acknowledge their inadequacy and unworthiness, which they must believe in order to remain stable emotionally.
All narcissists, when needed, play the victim. When they need to, nothing can be their fault—it’s always someone else’s fault or something external that has caused them to be in such a bad situation.
They are only the helpless and unfortunate victims of circumstance when they need to play the victim.
5. “And if it was, I didn’t mean it”
It’s worth noting that this is another example of a lack of accountability. Narcissists do not apologize and truly mean it. Not ever.
An apology would only come if it benefited the narcissist in some manner – apologies are transactional since everything is for a narcissist.
Narcissists cannot be viewed as villains because, to them, shame feels like an existential crisis that must be fought at all times. It must be deflected at all times, frequently onto someone else.
6. “And if I did, you deserved it.”
Both projection and blaming shifting are present here. Projection occurs when you transfer your emotions onto someone else so that you don’t have to feel them yourself, and narcissists are experts at it.
If a narcissist makes an error in judgment by accusing you of feeling something or doing anything, or being a certain way, they’re projecting their own feelings, actions, or state of being onto you.
In this section of the quote, the narcissist is projecting their guilt onto you. They are blaming you for what they have done so that they don’t have to carry the burden, and their brilliant false external image may remain intact.
The narcissist frequently employs unsound logic in an attempt to persuade you that something is your fault or that you are wrong, but with such fanfare that you become convinced.
They will frequently alter the subject of their arguments so rapidly that you are left utterly perplexed.
Who is a narcissist, and who isn’t?
As we’ve previously said, narcissism is a complex personality characteristic that includes myths and misconceptions about it. Therefore, it can be difficult to determine who is or isn’t a narcissist.
One of the most important things that you need to understand about people with a narcissistic personality disorder is that they are not all cruel and heartless monsters.
A lot of them have learned how to mimic empathy – but those afflicted by this condition feel little emotion even when others don’t notice anything wrong.
They also often suffer from other mental conditions such as anxiety disorders, depression, bipolar disorder or PTSD due to their traumatic upbringing (which we will cover in future articles).
There are some obvious red flags though: if someone’s behavior clearly harms your life chances; damages your reputation; makes you doubt yourself; leaves no room for boundaries between you and them; constantly takes advantage of you and others, then that person might be a narcissist.
Symptoms and Signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
In the DSM-V, narcissistic personality disorder is diagnosed when at least five of these traits are present in adults:
-Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
-Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, beauty, and intelligence;
-Believing that you’re superior to others (and everyone else’s opinions);
-Having zero empathy for others;
-Expecting constant praise and admiration from others;
-Believing that you’re special and acting accordingly (which means expecting other people to cater to your needs);
-Taking advantage of others, but not caring about their feelings or interests.
People with narcissistic personality disorder behave the way they do because it helps them manage how they feel about themselves, which is not good.
They need to be the center of attention and admired by everyone because deep down they feel like nothing more than a fraud who is unworthy of love or respect.
People with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder may find it difficult to cope with change, and they might become depressed or anxious when their expectations aren’t met. When people don’t appear to admire them or give the attention they believe they deserve, or feel entitled to,
It’s vital to remember that not all persons with narcissism or a narcissistic personality disorder will experience it in the same way. Furthermore, the degree and intensity of the symptoms may also differ.
Why is this blog’s theme about narcissistic prayer so significant?
As we previously stated, the narcissistic prayer helps us comprehend a little bit how a narcissist thinks, how they justify their deception, manipulation, lack of empathy and self-awareness of an issue.
As well, it’s essential to consider that there is a thin line between someone who has narcissistic personality characteristics and someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, yet the issue remains open where we should draw the line.
Still, if you have or currently deal with a person who is narcissistic, you are not alone. They may do so by reducing your confidence and self-esteem via toxic and abusive relationships that will just harm you in the long run.
It’s critical to learn how to manage a narcissist in your life, or get distance from them, because it will just drain and exhaust you interacting with them.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is a narcissistic man like?
People who are narcissistic will be rude and might only think about themselves. They will say things they don’t mean and not care what other people think.
People who are narcissistic might also be manipulative, selfish, or too full of themselves.
What is narcissistic Behaviour?
In the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum, people will have an inflated sense of their own importance.
They think they are more important than other people. They want a lot of attention and admiration from other people.
In relationships, they will take more than they give to others and show no empathy for them.
What is a covert narcissist?
A covert narcissist is someone who wants to be on a team but also wants to be on a team leader.
They can apologize, but sometimes they fake it so that people don’t think they’re bad.
They can feel fragile and disappointed in themselves. They believe that the world hates them because they are better than everyone else.
Sometimes, they pretend to be nice when something goes wrong so that their friends and partner don’t get mad at them.
Can a narcissist have a healthy relationship?
It is unlikely for narcissists to have healthy relationships because of the way they act. They also do not give feedback to their partner. Their partners can be isolated and trapped.
How do you communicate with a narcissist?
If you are speaking to a narcissist, it’s best for them to focus on the subject. They don’t like questions about their actions or motives, and they usually prejudge people without giving them an opportunity.
What is narcissistic abuse syndrome?
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome happens when someone has been exposed to emotional manipulation by another person. They can start becoming depressed and anxious because of it.
What does a narcissist do when they break up with someone?
When a narcissist breaks up with somebody, they may not feel bad about what happened.
It will be hard for them to imagine the pain that their partner is going through after breaking up. Sometimes, they don’t care about what they do to their partner.
